we recorded our last song we had left! we still have to do real and fancy recordings at m*riads but still we have run-thrus of them all now.
we have a wierd random headache and ear popping like on a plane things are wieerd here.
we recorded our last song we had left! we still have to do real and fancy recordings at m*riads but still we have run-thrus of them all now.
we have a wierd random headache and ear popping like on a plane things are wieerd here.
if m*riad is running away, then i picked them because they would be running away. and would probably freak out if they weren’t. i mean, let’s be honest, that would be pretty part for the course (who the fuck wrote part instead of par?). anyway, we aid our cable bill today so we won’t have it turned off at random, we showered last night for the first time in what i can only imagine was more than 2 weeks. that felt nice. we are thinking hapy things from what i*digo cuz kathy liked the rocks we picked out and the geode so they’d always have a cave and that made us happy cuz we really DID mean it like that and it’s nice when it can mean something to others too. whatever.
but if m*riad is pushing us away, then i’m sure we chose that for that specific reason. so we’d have something to fix, to focus on. so we are always chasing. god, who knows how much we create it? so we won’t ever feel suffocated, because when it switches (catches breath), it’s just done and you’re never the same in our eyes again. and we *really* don’t want that to happen. so maybe this is our way of dealing with that. maybe this would be a good time to explore those issues.
i mean, why would we want that? so that the person never gets too close, so that they become a part of us and then they own us and they are EVERYWHERE and we want to die. yes, definitely rejection is better than that. e*in dumped us but that was still easier than the stuff with s*ef. we are always running, towards or away. what a waste.
we got to hear some of m*riads angry parts and they said some really interesting and cool stuff that really helped us understand things better. it made us really happy. we really do like them. it’s funny, they treat their angry parts like we treat our weak/vulnerable/pathetic/needy parts. they hide behind the angry ones. it’s so odd. i think it makes for trouble but i actually think we learn alot when we can actually step back from the triggers. god i am so glad we don’t live together. it’s so important to be able to step back and get perspective. that’s what happened with s*ef. she was always there. even when she wasn’t. we were so intertwined i didn’t have my own thoughts separate from her. so i missed all the problems. i missed that we were having a fair amount of non-consensual sex that made us really angry and resentful and scared. that we were always tiptoing. god i’m so glad i can get perspective. i’m trying to step back, to look at myself. i think we have a tendancy to focus on other people and their problem’s instead of our own. something i imagine i share with many type-a-high-functioning multiples. the shit has to go somewhere. if you don’t claim it it’ll just go on whoever is nearby. that’s how we do it and have done it.
i don’t know. we’re just trying to open ourselves and listen. somehow i imagine m*riad laughing at that, like thinking we are stupid. what is that? what is getting triggered that i think that? that i see them as so functional that they wouldn’t even respect my getting in touch with my emotions? that i see them as that far from theirs? or just that i think they hold me and my processing in that much contempt, i guess. or that it makes them angry. i don’t know. cuz it’s too close to things. that’s probably mom stuff triggered. she certainly doesn’t want me exploring stuff.
i got an email from a*ron that was, that was very similar to my own style (i realized later with help). it was incredibly touching and after reading it and honestly since i have felt like i am crazy to think he’d do anything. that i am still allowed to protect myself to *feel* safe and on others advice, but that it isn’t true at all. which is just, i don’t know, interesting i guess. i just realized that since i’ve read it i really haven’t been able to beleive it’s actually possible that he’d try to trance us or just try to get younger parts to sleep with him. though some parts say it and show us other things but it is different like the writing.
but i was thinking about my mom’s emails. and how she has adapted her style to just say she loves me and supports what i’m doing. and how convinced i am by that. and how such small and subtle comments and phrasses can lead me without even knowing it to her way of thinking. and i have to say, if a*ron is doing that, then seriously my hat is off to him. we are really impressed. particularly our dark parts. (smiles). it’s sophisticated stuff. just, not many people can really fool us even when we’re looking who aren’t in our family. wow. it’s. wow (smiles like pam in the office episode where she’s impressed by jim). seriously it would make him a lot cooler and more impressive in our minds. a lot.
there are channels in that i am only beginning to see. i think my mom swam them or helped create them and i think we can’t even see them when we are looking right at them. even knowing that after reading it i basically believed there was no way he’d ever do anything and that he was just a hurt boy who felt alone and was doing his best. and i guess the thing is that IS true, but there are a lot of parts of him. it IS true, but possibly only for that part.
he can just, he can play (smiles) it like a piano. he can access other parts of himself when it’s convenient. he is almost undetectable. he is adaptable. he is amazingly skilled. he is impressive.
woah. what is going on? we feel wierd? like our face is numb or something in a cloud? what is going on?
i guess we just keep writing and writing.
i think our greatest weakness may be our basic belief that we are fairly impervious to mind control and are instead actually a threat. and that we are if anything fascinated by the idea of someone succeesffully doing it on us. and i just wonder. i wonder if that works right into their hands. some things can be so subtle that look like just another cobblestone on the street and you don’t think anything when you trip.
it’s too much work to make our pleasers feel useful, it’s too much work to process, it’s too much work to deal with our triggers. i don’t know. it’s a tough thing for us. our whole body tightens and gets cold our head detaches and floats like a balloon. we play katamari to ignore the feeling. it is definitely one of the scariest. we just sit and sift when we can and try to catch the threads and figure out what we are feeling and
lots of distraction of katamari today. lots of smoke. not much remembered now. we feel very alone. alone and sad and scared.
also that’s why e*in broke up with me really. i was way too much work. it is truly the worst thing.
just the idea that we are too much work sets our heart beating hard and fast. it is the opposite of how we are supposed to be. the opposite. it is the worst thing. it is the WORST i want to die i do i want to die i do i want to die i can’t do this i can’t do this i don’t even know what’s going on i’m just trying to hang on dammit this is too hard i want to die i am so alone and scared and alone and scared and alone and unloved and scared and alone and sad and cold and scared and alone and saf and alone adn sad and scaared and i want to die i want todie i want to die i want to die i want to die i want to die i want to die we feel like we are trancing i*digo said it woulda freaked them out if kathy talked in a way too make them trance a bit even if they took them out of it and secret secret it did feel wierd and other people say all this crazy stuff about her wanting to do stuff because they are crazy and show us pictures that are not real but we are bad i want to die i want to die i want to die i want to die i want to die i want to die
it took the process like over a day to run, but i think we figured out that we are scared and sad that we are too much work. plus all the a*ron stuff, which believe me is here all over but i can’t write about it here. yet says someone. ever say i.
elizabeth wants to die and should die. elizabeth wants to die and sshould die. elizabeth wants to die and should die. elizabeth wants to die and should die. elizabeth wants to die and should die. wleizabeth wants to die and should die. elizabeth wants to die and hshould die. every day the dreams get closer and closer to branching into here.
i am so scared i am so scared i am so scared i am so scared i am so scared i am so scared i am so scared i am so scared i am so scared i am so scared i’ve been hearing high-pitched tones for a while but i didn’t tell nobody cuz theys not real so i didn’t say i am a good girl i can be i am i can be i am. the worst disgrace is to not be a good girl, to be a bother and be work. it is so scary. to not be a good girl and make everything better like a good girl does that is what she does. that is what she does. that is what she does that is what she does that is what she does always posed be good to be around not be work posed be good bad girl such a bad girl such a bad girl such a bad girl such a bad girl such a bad girl such a bad girl such a bad girl such a bad girl such a bad girl such a bad girl such a bad girl such a bad girl such a bad girl such a bad girl then everyone will hate me everyoone will hate me they’re all against me an they’ll turn against me if i’m not good enough if i’m bad they’ll turn against me and i’ll be alone and not be able to get them back so can’t be bad can’t let them find out i’m bad can’t let them
today is scary everything is scary we feel so alone and sad and scared and it is difficult here
we were talking to m*riad’s littles and they said they felt like they’d never be good enough for us because we were always upset with them so it was never safe and how it made them so sad. and i just listened, and tried to explain, and took it all in because this was gospel. this was sadness, sad *kids*. i don’t know, we didn’t even get it at first but like we were getting sadder and sadder and we realized more and more how much we hurt them and how sad we made them. and how bad we are. but it is almost a different kind of bad. it is the bad for causing sadness..
m*riad said they were inward focused and we’d maybe never dated someone like that inward DIRECTED i mean. and so we is bad. we must be more outward directed. i think that is the bad one.
i don’t know, it was just that slow dawning of realizing that yet again, we are the cause of someone’s suffering and for someone feeling that they are *bad* or not good enough (funny i’d never thought about the good/bad commonality between those before wierd).
i don’t know. we are just, we are just a destructive force. it’s kind of part of who and what we are. we aren’t all inwardly focused and our hurt comes out as anger and hurts people. we are just, we are always scary and a bit of a monster. we are always angry, we blow up out of nowhere. we are scary. e*a, e*in, s*ef all told us this. e*a was the first person to tell us when we were maybe i don’t know i would guess 10 or 11 that she was scared of us when we were angry and we were physically threatening and grabbed her arm and stuff and just very aggressive and scary. i don’t know. i know it’s in me.
i mean i guess i just head myself saying that i just had too high expectations and that they couldn’t meet that and i have to work on that and knowing that i am unequivocally bad. that i am doing something really wrong that hurts them. that it is my fault and my respponsability.
i mean really i was just feeling how sad they were at first and then as we talked it dawned more an dmore on us how much this was our fault. how much we were hurting them by expecting them to react perfectly when we’re triggered and getting angry or resentful or upset or mistrustful when they don’t. it is the monster, it is the dragon with braids and long teeth and the braids wave in the air and the wind blows fast and there is light and motion.
but well, it is just very us to have a consistent pattern of hurting someone with out anger. it’s the reason why, in the end, we can never be unequivocally not bad. it is that we do wrong things that are definitely wrong and hurt people and make them sad.
i don’t know, there is a specific feeling you get from watching/feeling suffering that you have caused with your selfishness and impossible demands. we are never good. there is just, there is the punishment of seeing the hurt you have caused and can’t take back. it is such a familiar feeeling that my chest is almost heavy with it.
i think that feeling should be my feeling. it should be named after me. it should be formed in my image and rolled in my dust and dropped from my rooftop.
there is always the hurt i have caused with my sadness and my selfishness. i hurt mom alot before i finally got better and stopped being selfish and started caring about her and what was going on with her and helping tho sometimes i was still a bitch and so mena and a brat and a bad girl.
she just got so sad. so sad. so sad. i guess that’s what the throw it all away song is about for us is like she’d throw it all away but it wouldn’t make it better. there is the suffering that you have caused. there is always the suffering that you have caused that was in yur name.
to know that you are the danger, that you are the problem, the unsafety, the threat. it is a heady feeling says someone. it is surely a unique one. in some ways it feels like when everything goes quiet when a plane takes off. it is just, oh you are back here again. there is no denying it. it is just who you are. you are the causer of sadness, of suffering. you are the break and the breaker and broken. you are the stars and the moon and the sea and the sun and the wild and the dark and the night and they sky and the heart and the tremble and the trumpet and the seen… you are everything and you are responsible for everything.
it is always surprising to find out that we wielded power we didn’t even know we had, that we were a giant who unthinkingly crushed a village swinging their hand around or running it over the grass.
i don’t know, we are just always the evil princess. and e*a is the good princess and mom is the wicked step-mother and dad is the dad and greandmommy is the wicked fairy godmother. we are bad and worthless.